Spotting The Red Flags In A New Relationship
So you finally decided to go exclusive? It’s been such a magical journey so far. Well before you get too attached… absorb this info. You’re not quite ready for a serious relationship if the butterflies are still flying in your belly, so don’t let that tickle make the decisions for you. Here are some Red Flags to consider:
#1. If your mate farts in front of you and it’s only been a month or less… Red Flag. The rule is NO farting unless its been at least 4 to 6 months… if ever. I mean, unless that’s your thing, but that is another Red Flag all together. Personally, I’m not really down for ass music contests with my supposedly classy lady.
#2. If its been less than 6 months into the new relationship and your mate is pressuring you to meet their parents… Red Flag. Come on, it has only been a few months. You should not be getting too involved in your mate’s family life this soon. Your parents also have feelings that should be considered, and they could be just as hurt if there is a breakup in the future… Click HERE for a good example of this. It’s just too soon for that much commitment. Sorry Mom and Dad.
#3. Here’s a good one; You and your new found love start spending a lot of time together and both of you decide to go exclusive. You notice your mate is always asking who you’re texting/talking to over the phone. You even notice them looking over your shoulder trying to sneak a peek… Red Flag. Not a good sign of things to come. Pay attention to this Flag. Your mate already has potential insecurity and trust issues and it WILL affect the relationship in the future.
#4. Do NOT get matching tattoos three to six months into a relationship… if ever. Uber tacky and kinda cliché, also makes for not so fun story time for the next contestant you date. You both just signed up for life on the Red Flag list. Because, well, tatts are forever. Your lustful three months adventure of bad decisions, isn’t.
#5. Moving in together after spending minimal time with one another is not a good idea. You know what they say… If you really want to get to know someone, move in together. No one would say this to you however, if you have been together for six months or less… maybe even a year or less.
Sure it might sound like a good idea now, but just wait till you find out what a slob she/he really is. See how much fun you’re having when you’re constantly being yelled at for leaving the toilet seat up, not taking out the trash, forgetting to wash the dishes, leaving your clothes on the couch/bed/floor, misplacing the remote to the idiot box, not making the bed EXACTLY how she likes it, inviting your friends over too much, playing the music too loud, forgetting to feed the dog and the bunny, drinking the last remnants of milk, playing the XBOX too much, spending too much time on the internet, not fully completing the “30 Things I want you to do today” list, etc…
Also, if the decision to move in together is brought up and decided without you… Red Flag. You may have a Stage Six clinger. Bye bye.
Don’t rush and don’t push a new relationship to develop. Take a step back and let it happen naturally.