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First Dates… Red Wine and Red Flags

2 Feb

Look for these Red and Black Flags next time you’re out with a prospect for the first time. Find the Red Flag, don’t be the Red Flag!

Here’s my TOP 9 First Date Red Flags:

#1. Guy not picking up the bill/tab.

Super tacky and no class. Really? Someone’s parents never told him what’s up. Going Dutch doesn’t count either.

#2. Guy/girl steals tip.

WTF Right? But I’ve seen it! Don’t worry, karma is a bitch.

#3. Guy/girl texting while at dinner table, or anytime during the date.

Unless you purposely want to end this date and all hope for another, keep it up. Nothing says “I think you’re boring” and “I ‘d rather be  somewhere else”, more than this.  Anyone this inconsiderate, where they can’t excuse themselves for a minute to take a call or answer a text, should definitely be Red Flagged.

#4.  Your date states “I’m a Vegan”.

What does that even mean?! Red Flag.

#5. Guy ordering food based on price.

Don’t be cheap. It’s a first date! Impress! You have the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, and maybe even 5th date to expose how cheap you really are. Girls notice this, and for some it may even be a Black Flag (ie dealbreaker).

#6. Drinking too much liquor and getting drunk.

If you have to have SOME drinks (2-3 max) for a bit of liquid courage… fine. But please don’t pound drink after drink and get wasted. No one wants to babysit on a first date. This is a great indication of the person’s character and personality. On a first date it can even be a dealbreaker.

#7. Goes to the bathroom a little too often.

A subtle, but important observation to make. Drugs MAY be the cause… Or an STD (oops). Either way, Red Flag!

#8. Guy/girl is a terrible driver and/or expresses road rage.

Signs of road rage, especially on a first date, reveal underlining anger issues, as well as no control of emotions… Red Flag! A great indication of what can become a frequent occurance.

SIDE NOTE: The best overlooked sign to see if your date can handle his/her wheels is parallel parking. It shouldn’t take 4 tries to get it right. Also, other cars, objects, animals or pedestrians are really not supposed to make contact with your date’s moving vehicle at any time.

#9. Guy or girl gets a DUI.

From personal experience… dealbreaker! Your actual date may go flawlessly, but then you tell your date to text and let you know she got home safe, and get no reply. At first you think either she hates me, or OMG she didn’t get home! Not a good feeling.

The answer comes the next day (or 12 hours later) in the form of text… it states,” Sorry I didn’t get back to you, I got pulled over last night.”

This Red Flag’s the entire association between two people before a relationship can even begin.

We good for now.

Love yallz…


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8 Responses to “First Dates… Red Wine and Red Flags”

  1. Aurora 03/10/2011 at 8:56 AM #

    When I go on dates, I always pay my half. I’ve been reading a lot about men thinking women are gold-diggers and whatnot, so I go out of my way to make sure I pay what I consume so it doesn’t seem I’m there for a free meal..

    I guess I should let the guy pay next time?

    • Minor 03/10/2011 at 11:11 PM #

      Hello Aurora,

      You can definitely OFFER to pay half, but you want a guy to happily pay for your share. A man should pay for your comfort for at least three dates (if you get to three dates with this person). Then you could insist you pay the tab or contribute this time (in a playful, cute kind of way). This is how I would like it to be. I show a girl that I want to take care of her and am happy in doing so. She shows me (by offering to pay half of the bill) that she too wants to be a little more independent without being too pushy or not in it to be a gold digger

      Thanks for commenting…


  2. Riven 03/10/2011 at 10:43 AM #

    Going to the bathroom often I have to defend myself!haha I drink about a gallon of water a day and it leaves me feeling like a pregnant women. I go to the bathroom alot. It doesn’t help that I model leaving me with a stereotype of sex and drugs:(

    • Minor 03/11/2011 at 6:55 PM #

      Hey Riven, you do have a valid point here. I’m merely pointing out that frequent potty trips should be RED FLAGGED by others. You can bring up your H20 intake to that someone special in a cute/funny way if you want to burn that RED FLAG down! Until someone knows you, try to have control of possible RED FLAGS they may wave towards you!
      Thanks for the comment..

  3. Nena 07/26/2011 at 10:48 PM #

    I don’t think that running to the bathroom a lot is always a red flag. I suffer from Crohn’s disease and when it flares up, I do that. =(

  4. Mike 08/31/2011 at 6:17 PM #

    These are all either extremely obvious or extremely stupid. Do we really need to be told that a date stealing the tip is a red flag? And why the hell is being vegan a red flag? Is following Jewish dietary restrictions also a red flag for you?


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