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I’m Kind Of A Big Deal

26 Sep

I'm kind of a big deal

Here are two dating Red Flags we’ve all most likely endured at some point in our adult life, and perhaps may have been guilty of them ourselves – Talking too much about yourself, and lying about your status in life (when you don’t have to).

Ever been in a situation where your date just keeps going on and on about how she’s booked solid for the month of August with modeling shoots and all the hip/cool shit she is doing, and all the A-list parties she is attending? I get it…you’re very popular, you have a lot of “friends” on Facebook, you model, and you’re God’s gift to good looks…now will you please shut the fuck up!?

This behavior is often the result of one or more of the following things. None of these however, are an excuse for subjecting you to their entire social autobiography during your very first date together.

The problem is that these people think way too highly of themselves and have delusions of grandeur. This is defined as “a delusion that you are much greater, more powerful and influential than you really are.” These people truly believe that because they are so interesting and fucking awesome, everyone must be interested in what they have to say. They possess a magical ability of being able to somehow take whatever you say and make it about them. I’ve experienced this many many times before. Living where I do (Hollywood), this should come as no surprise.

One time it was so bad I just started spewing out random nonsense completely unrelated to the conversation we were having…err the conversation she was having with herself, just to see how she would spin it and make it about herself. Do not underestimate this ability these people have. Where there’s a will there’s a way.

Red Flag this early. Besides, if they aren’t asking you any questions about yourself, they are obviously not interested in getting to know you anyways. The question then becomes, what exactly are they interested in? Hmmm.

Maybe they are just trying way too hard to impress you? I hear this complaint from women all the time. If the guy you are on a date with cannot stop talking about his nice car, his high paying job, and his awesome life, don’t hesitate to order up a feast, including an expensive bottle of your favorite wine, and force him to put his money where his mouth is.

Actions speak louder than words, and a lot of the time they’re just desperately trying to convince you of something they are not. This is a Red Flag for obvious reasons, but also recognize the not so obvious Red Flag this behavior represents – Insecurity.

People make up stories to impress their dates because they are insecure that their true self won’t be good enough to be granted a follow-up date. I recommend steering clear of people whose insecurity Red Flag surface so soon. Nothing good can come of a relationship that is already starting out with lies and insecurity issues.

The bottom line is…STFU, you don’t gotta lie to kick it. If you are a good person and want to be my friend, you don’t need to impress me with how cool you are or what you do for a living. Definitely do not lie to impress me, as that will get you nowhere fast! I must sound like a broken record when I say this but…just be real and be yourself.

Have YOU ever had the pleasure of dating one of these people? Feel free to share…

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