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Bad Kisser… Red Flag

7 Nov

Another great guest post from one of my Faves… Enjoy!

Kissing can be an important indicator of chemistry in a relationship. In our overly sexualized society we have lost the art and appreciation of kissing—and so much can be said in a kiss!

Take a second to think about all of the kisses you’ve shared. There have been good kisses—the kind that make your chest warm and your heart beat against it. The kind where your mouth cannot help but react in an irrepressible smile.

…And of course there are the bad kisses. The kind that make you furrow your brows in confusion. “What are they doing? Do they think this is fun? Or sexy? Where’d all this spit come from?! What are they, a sponge?”

No matter how you try to rationalize those bad kisses—they are a Red Flag.

A friend of mine went on a date not so long ago with quite the man: 6’4”, wavy blonde hair, South African— a picturesque hunk. She was ecstatic. Until after dinner that night, when he proceeded to “eat her face”, as she describes it. Yes, she says that both her chin AND nose were inside of his mouth at the same time.

I know, I know—I don’t understand the logistics of it either. Maybe that’s how they kiss in South Africa… All I know is that it doesn’t sound like fun.

Needless to say they didn’t go on a second date. And who’s to say he was a “bad” kisser? In his defense maybe he just needed someone a bit more his size. And that’s why kissing the RIGHT person makes all the difference.

Kissing is the foundation of physical interaction with your significant other. If you don’t have that, you’ve got nothing to stand on. Now this isn’t to say it can’t be developed. It can. (And what a delightful homework assignment!) But there is something magical in a kiss that you don’t need to think about. THAT, my friends, is a rare and special thing.

Give it a couple tries. Give them the benefit of the doubt. But after that, you might want to get a move on. Kissing is a little too special to be wasted on a wet sponge.

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2 Responses to “Bad Kisser… Red Flag”

  1. Angie 11/08/2011 at 10:47 PM #

    A great kiss is sweet, but I don’t think a bad kisser is too bad of a flag. I’ve found that if I just tell a man how I like to be kissed that he’ll comply. Men generally love to please women and if you give them feedback they will learn and get to know what pleases you better! A win win! But if he can’t take the feedback from kissing and get better at that, then imagine what he’s like in bed (here’s a hint: horrible)! Definitely don’t want a man that doesn’t listen to what makes you tick between the sheets ;-) lol. Enjoyed the read, thanks!

  2. The Dolls Factory 11/09/2011 at 11:18 PM #

    The Kiss is the start of an amazing ‘rest of our lives kissing’ so hell yes is important. Great post

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